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Praying For Your Child’s Future Mate

July 26, 2011

12 Ways to Pray for Your Child’s Future Mate

By Pamela F. Dowd, Marshall, TX

Intercede for your son or daughter’s future mate (and marriage) with these prayers. (Taken from

A friend of mine once prepared spinach dip in a bread bowl on the way to a party!  She quipped to her 16-year old son while stirring in the sour cream, “Conner, remember to find a wife who can cook in the car.”  Though she was only jesting, her comment points to a serious reality :  We all hope our children will choose a compatible and godly mate.  Prayer is essential in guiding them in that direction.  Naturally, a primary prayer for a future son or daughter in-law would be for him or her to enter into a personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ.

Here is a lis of 12 other things we can pray.  I based these upon what I pray for my daughters.  Any of these items can be prayed for children of either sex.

  1. Help my child’s spouse to remain a virgin. Guard him from “outer-course” (petting experiences); abuse; harassment; and pornographic content in music, photographs, and movies (Col. 3:5).
  2. Make my child’s spouse a man after God’s own heart, a maturing Christian who can take a spiritual leadership role that encourages my daughter toward deeper spiritual growth (Eph. 5:25-28).
  3. Develop in my child’s mate a desire to seek and ask forgiveness when wrong from both God and man (1 Jn. 1:8-9).
  4. Show my daughter’s spouse what you want him to do with his life. Help him to seek your purpose for his creation (1 Tim. 4:12).
  5. Teach my child’s spouse the basics of spiritual warfare, how to flee temptation, how to take thoughts captive, and how to stand firm against the devil’s schemes (1 Pet. 5:8-9, 2 Cor. 10:3-5, Jas. 4:7-8).
  6. Help my daughter’s spouse to become a master of good, uplifting communication. Protect him from foul language and angry response (Col. 3:8).
  7. Give my child’s spouse deep, satisfying personal relationships that will prepare him for marriage without compromising his purity (1 Thess. 4:3-8).
  8. Teach my daughter’s spouse to be a good parent. Give his parents good parenting skills, and, if not, provide him with a godly role model. Be the Father to the fatherless if he has no father (Ps. 68:5-6).
  9. Give my child’s spouse a hunger for God through prayer and Bible study (Mt. 13:23).
  10. Help my daughter’s spouse to make a commitment to the truth, to choose honesty in every situation, even when tempted to lie to lessen punishment or consequences (Eph. 4:25).
  11. Give my daughter’s spouse a proper attitude toward money in giving, receiving, and working. Help him learn how to budget, save, and tithe (1 Tim. 6:6-11).
  12. Make my child’s spouse considerate and sensitive, a giving, loving Christian man who can place others needs before his own without losing his personal identity (1 Jn. 3:16-18).

Our intent as praying parents is not to pray up the “perfect” spouse for our child – thought that is certainly our own desire – but to see our child’s mate become all he or she can be for God.  

by Pamela F. Dowd, Marshall, TX (

Used by permission of the author.  

First published in PRAY! Magazine – Issue 9, 1998   

Taken from

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